On the Other Side of Normal

It’s crazy how much has happened since my last post here almost two years ago. Right now, I’m on Spring Break from my first year at Liberty University. Over the last few days, I’ve been scrolling through my blog…reading old posts and remembering the hours I spent hunched over a keyboard, typing all those words…

Lessons on Transition…from Rapunzel

Words can never quite accurately describe what it feels like to be in the middle of a life-altering transition. I’m in the midst of one right now. But for some reason, this transition seems more significant, more daunting, than all the rest. Not only am I transitioning continents, I’m also transitioning from dependence to independence….

Jesus Broke My Heart

Nine years ago, Jesus broke my heart. God’s call for my family to move overseas shattered it. I lost the world I loved overnight. The next day, I entered a new world I didn’t know and initially didn’t like. As years passed, I slowly grew to love my new world as well as my old world….

5 Key Steps to Walking Through TCK Grief

Many people don’t understand TCK grief. TCK grief is unconventional. Rather than blatant and obvious losses, our losses can be hidden, ambiguous, and disguised. I haven’t lost a mother or father, or a sister or a brother. In many ways, my grief can never compare to the grief triggered by these major losses. But I…

10 Questions Missionary Kids Would Love to Be Asked

Most MKs are asked hundreds of questions during their families’ home assignments. Ironically, many of us leave our passport countries feeling unknown. In all honesty, we usually don’t answer questions well. Our fumbling answers can create distance.  Many times we feel as though these questions are asked politely, without time or desire to listen to…

Life as a Third Culture Kid

The clock reads 5:30 a.m. The first glimmers of dawn stretch across the dim horizon. The outside world is sleeping. Other than the occasional croak of frogs in the neighbor’s rice field, it is still and quiet. But despite this early morning hour, my home buzzes with excitement. A week of travel looms. The familiar sound of suitcases, zipped and…

Remembering Who We Are

Saudade: a vague and constant desire for something that does not and probably cannot exist, for something other than the present, a turning towards the past or towards the future; not an active discontent or poignant sadness but an indolent dreaming wistfulness. –A. F. G. Bell In Portugal of 1912   “Airports feel like home to…

10 Ways Growing Up Abroad has NOT Prepared Me for College Life in the US

I just finished writing a university entrance essay with this prompt: “How has living abroad prepared you for US university life?” Here’s what I wanted to say… 1. I’ve never driven a car in my life (except for a tractor in China), but I can maneuver through international airports. I live in Hiroshima, Japan, where…

7 Spot-On Ways TCKs Deal with Grief

One thing all TCKs have in common? Grief. What is the most common reason adult TCKs seek counseling? “Unresolved loss and grief,” writes expat counselor Kay Bruner in her article “Ask a Counselor: How do we Process Loss and Grief?” You see, TCKs attend many funerals. Hidden, heart-level funerals felt in the depths of our…