Lessons on Transition…from Rapunzel

Words can never quite accurately describe what it feels like to be in the middle of a life-altering transition. I’m in the midst of one right now. But for some reason, this transition seems more significant, more daunting, than all the rest. Not only am I transitioning continents, I’m also transitioning from dependence to independence….

5 Key Steps to Walking Through TCK Grief

Many people don’t understand TCK grief. TCK grief is unconventional. Rather than blatant and obvious losses, our losses can be hidden, ambiguous, and disguised. I haven’t lost a mother or father, or a sister or a brother. In many ways, my grief can never compare to the grief triggered by these major losses. But I…

7 Spot-On Ways TCKs Deal with Grief

One thing all TCKs have in common? Grief. What is the most common reason adult TCKs seek counseling? “Unresolved loss and grief,” writes expat counselor Kay Bruner in her article “Ask a Counselor: How do we Process Loss and Grief?” You see, TCKs attend many funerals. Hidden, heart-level funerals felt in the depths of our…

FIGT: The Importance of Healthy Goodbyes

(Part 3) As a TCK, I enter every new friendship with the knowledge that at some point in the near future, I will have to say goodbye.  Saying healthy goodbyes is one of the key lessons that I am learning while living overseas. While each person grieves differently, I’ve discovered that thriving overseas is many…

FIGT: The Impact of Vulnerability on Relationships

(Part 2) During the Families in Global Transition Conference (see my previous article ‘FIGT (Part 1)’ to read more about it here), I attended Chris O’Shaughnessy’s session, “Changing our Concept of Home to Find Hope.” Ready to cover his session as a Writer in Residence, I sat down among the audience with my laptop. I was…

Dinner with Third Culture Kids

Most of my best friends are third culture kids. Our homes are located countries apart and our every-day lives are drastically different. We see each other once a year at best, and we hug each other goodbye without any certainty of another connection. But despite these challenges, we consider each other best friends.