5 Key Steps to Walking Through TCK Grief

Many people don’t understand TCK grief. TCK grief is unconventional. Rather than blatant and obvious losses, our losses can be hidden, ambiguous, and disguised. I haven’t lost a mother or father, or a sister or a brother. In many ways, my grief can never compare to the grief triggered by these major losses. But I…

7 Spot-On Ways TCKs Deal with Grief

One thing all TCKs have in common? Grief. What is the most common reason adult TCKs seek counseling? “Unresolved loss and grief,” writes expat counselor Kay Bruner in her article “Ask a Counselor: How do we Process Loss and Grief?” You see, TCKs attend many funerals. Hidden, heart-level funerals felt in the depths of our…

Five Longings of a TCK’s Heart

Have you ever ached to know what your TCK is thinking? To discern what they need to hear from you? To glimpse into the longings of their heart? As TCKs, we have many hidden yearnings tucked deep within us, but many of us refuse to articulate them to our parents. We often choose silence in…

Latest Article on UYD Magazine + Behind the Scenes Story

“Where’s home” is a confusing and daunting question for Third Culture Kids. Our hearts are connected to many cultures and countries, making it extremely difficult to define home. I decided to base my latest article for UYD magazine on TCKs’ thought process behind the question. I asked my twin to design a picture for the post….

Expat Advice Interview on ExpatPsi

A few weeks ago I was contacted by Paula Vexlir, a registered clinical psychologist who lives in Argentina. She leads continuous research on Spanish-speaking expats to increase awareness of specific ways to support the Spanish-speaking expat community. She shares this information with companies and Global Mobility experts through her website http://www.expatpsi.com. Paula also currently gives…

FIGT: The Most Important Thing to Take With You When You Move Overseas

(Part 5) “What is the most important thing to take with you when you move overseas?” My attention was immediately drawn. I sat in a small group at this year’s Families in Global Transition Conference, listening intently. The question was posed to a group entirely comprised of expats. We had moved countless times to many…

FIGT: A Different Perspective on Short-Term Friendships

(Part 4) “Am I truly ‘okay’ with short-term friendships?” the question nagged me as I curled up in a chair in my hotel room at the Tysons Corner Marriot after the end of the Families in Global Transition conference I attended last month. A steaming cup of instant hotel coffee in my hand, I exhaled…

FIGT: The Importance of Healthy Goodbyes

(Part 3) As a TCK, I enter every new friendship with the knowledge that at some point in the near future, I will have to say goodbye.  Saying healthy goodbyes is one of the key lessons that I am learning while living overseas. While each person grieves differently, I’ve discovered that thriving overseas is many…

FIGT: The Impact of Vulnerability on Relationships

(Part 2) During the Families in Global Transition Conference (see my previous article ‘FIGT (Part 1)’ to read more about it here), I attended Chris O’Shaughnessy’s session, “Changing our Concept of Home to Find Hope.” Ready to cover his session as a Writer in Residence, I sat down among the audience with my laptop. I was…